Tuesday, November 14, 2006

Family Ties—Dumaguete Style

Marilyn has family in and around Dumaguete.  This photo was actually taken down the road in Zamboanguita.(Above: Part of my soon-to-be extended family, which includes Marilyn's uncle and her cousins)

I was understandably nervous about meeting Marilyn's family during my Dumaguete adventure. Fear dwelt in the back of my mind as I pondered the possibility of making a bad impression. I wasn't entirely sure how this might occur, but I knew these would be among the most protective people in Marilyn's life. Therefore, it was very important that I instilled a sense of trust in their minds.

Future leaders in Dumaguete?  Wouldn't surprise me ;)(Above: Time for a group photo with the big white guy, or "uncle", as I was referred to)

I began to relax about the situation once Marilyn informed me how nervous her family was to meet me, and how they were actually ashamed because they felt their English was not sufficient. It seems they were even more concerned about making a positive impression on me! I was the one seeking acceptance into their family, but here they were seeking my approval as well.

A quick photo with Marilyn's grandmother before we headed back to Dumaguete(Above: A quick photo with Marilyn's grandmother before we headed back to Dumaguete)

Despite my earlier fears, the time spent with Marilyn's family was most certainly a highlight of my two weeks in Dumaguete.

Sadly, Marilyn's parents had already passed on by this time. Her mother's death came just months before my visit. I would have been privileged to meet the woman who brought Marilyn into this world, that's for sure.

21 Comments:

Blogger RTS said...

Hi Corey,
Posted a comment to your comment.I'm sure you'll fit right in with your new family.
By the way.....how do you caption your photos?

Friday, November 17, 2006 6:24:00 PM  
Blogger Corey said...

Hello Bob...thanks for visiting. I hope my e-mail was helpful regarding the captions.

I also think I'll fit in quite well with Marilyn's family :) I need to find the photo they took of me with Marilyn's grandmother. It was kind of funny...they asked her if she wanted to have her photo taken with an American. She just stood next to me and smiled for the camera :)

Friday, November 17, 2006 10:57:00 PM  
Blogger Ed Abbey said...

Sorry my friend but the stress of meeting the family isn't just a one time affair. Over the years, distant cousins that even your fiance doesn't know well will be wanting to meet you and perhaps extract a little money from your bank account. Fortunately for me, both my wife and mother-in-law are very modest folks and won't allow requests for money without going through them first and that stops 99% of it right there. Once they find out that you aren't a cash cow, things tend to mellow out a bit and everybody gets along.

Tuesday, November 21, 2006 9:18:00 AM  
Blogger Corey said...

Me a cash cow? Never been accused of such a thing ;)

Wednesday, November 22, 2006 6:10:00 PM  
Anonymous Jim Vernon said...

Hi Corey,

My comment is not about your immigration trials but I would like to ask some questions.

I visited Dumaguete City twice in the late 1960's as a US Air Force airman during the Vietnam war. I had been stationed on Mactan Island across from Cebu City and later at Clark Air Base near Manila. In between I was in Vietnam.

In Cebu City I met a family from Dumaguete City. One of the daughters was Mariton Diago. The family owned the gas company in Dumaguete City, I believe. When I visited Dumaguete City it was Mariton who I came to see.

I would like to know if anybody knows of this family and what has happened to them over the years.

My wife and I are missionaries to La Rochelle, France. We have a website at:
http://www.heartforfrance.org/

You can also read my personal story
at:
http://www.heartforfrance.org/pdf/JimsStory.pdf

The story tells about my life at Clark Air Base near Manila.

If your interested there is also a
write-up and story of what happened after I came back to the States at:
http://www.heartforfrance.org/pdf/Godplan_PDF_Letter.pdf

We also lived in Lexington, KY for almost 20 years before moving to La Rochelle, France in 2002. We've
been to Cinncinatti many times.

We wish you both the best in your new adventure together there in the States.

Many blessings from us here,

Jim and Michelle Vernon
Missionaries to La Rochelle, France
jvfrance@aol.com

Friday, June 06, 2008 3:17:00 AM  
Anonymous Corey said...

Hello Jim...I can certainly ask if she is familiar with that name.

Keep up the Lord's work in France :)

Wednesday, June 11, 2008 8:26:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

jim im actually a diago... but im still in my mid 20's. do you know any other relative of mariton?

Wednesday, June 18, 2008 3:39:00 AM  
Anonymous Jim Vernon said...

Hi Anonymous,
I don't remember any other names,
sorry.

I did meet a lady from Dumaguete City at a ball room dance in Lexington, KY one time and she knew very well the Diago family and that they had 2 daughters. I believe the Father was spanish and the Mother was of Chinese descent. As I said before I believe they owned the gas company and were well off. It is unbelieveable what has happened to this little town since the late 1960's.
Jim

Thursday, June 19, 2008 4:40:00 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hi Corey,

I'm a Filipina, met my husband on the internet in February 2004 and married him May 16, 2005 in Indianapolis, Indiana where we are residing. I'm now teaching Kindergarten in one of the public school here.I see and feel the "discrimination" here in my workplace(public school)just because I'm Asian (eventhough married to an American). I hope your wife will not encounter the same discrimination for being an Asian.

Tuesday, July 29, 2008 2:44:00 AM  
Blogger Corey said...

Hello there...thanks for your comment. My wife currently works in the office of a Filipino doctor. The entire staff is actually Filipino, so she thankfully doesn't experience discrimination. However, I'm sure it exists in many places around the country. Despite that, I hope you are enjoying your life here.

Tuesday, July 29, 2008 8:10:00 PM  
Anonymous Orvin said...

Hi Corey,

I have taken two trips to Dumaguete to meet my wife Tess. We were married here in Ohio on Feb. 6, 2008. My wife's family is large and very close. Many live on the same street.Both times I visited there, I celebrated my birthday with her family. We had a huge crowd and had a lot of fun. The people there were all nice to me. I plan on spending more time there in the future.

I do feel like a giant there. My wife's brother is as tall as me but thin. Does Marilyn miss her family as much as my wife misses her's?

Orvin

Wednesday, July 01, 2009 12:42:00 AM  
Blogger Corey said...

Hello Orvin...she most certainly does miss home, and it tends to be most evident during times that she is struggling to relate to our culture here. She does have some family here in the States, but I almost believe that even if they all came to the U.S. she would still miss her culture.

Thanks for stopping by!

Monday, July 13, 2009 1:27:00 PM  
Anonymous shariel said...

I am glad to hear such good comments about the Philippines and the Filipino people..thank you for being interested in our place..I am from Negros too..quite near Dumaguete..

Wednesday, July 15, 2009 1:30:00 AM  
Blogger Corey said...

Thanks for stopping by, Shariel. I suppose we'll get back to Dumaguete one of these years. My wife and I have talked about going to live there years from now :)

Wednesday, July 15, 2009 8:13:00 PM  
Blogger ladygreen said...

hello to all Filipinas out there.. tc and Godbless!

Monday, August 10, 2009 9:00:00 AM  
Anonymous Ceci Smith said...

Hi Corey, My daughter Shauna and her husband Derek are going to Dumeguete City on September 3 for 12 days. They are applying to be missionaries - one would teach ESL and the other Bible classes - through their church in Las Vegas - Calvary Chapel Spring Valley. Dumeguete looks like a beautiful place. I was delighted to see that you know Jesus too!! They may be interested in reading your blog.
Blessings to you and Marilyn,
Ceci Smith :)

Friday, August 21, 2009 6:28:00 PM  
Blogger Corey said...

Hello Ceci...thanks for visiting :) Marilyn attended the Calvary Chapel in Dumaguete and I believe she is quite familiar with CC-Spring Valley, as there are quite a number of missionaries from there who attend her church in Dumaguete. She probably knows some of the same people you do :) I'm sure your daughter and husband will be very blessed. Marilyn would love to return to Dumaguete and do mission work as well (of course, I'd be joining her :))

Blessings to you and your family!

Saturday, August 22, 2009 4:03:00 PM  
Blogger mustang said...

Hi Corey,
I am planning a trip to the Philippines soon and would like to converse with you before hand. Could you please email me at: mustanglvr12345 at yahoo dot com
thanks,
Terry

Tuesday, January 26, 2010 1:55:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

HI,COREY,
TELL MARILYN I'M FROM NEGROS OREINTAL TOO FROM BAYAWAN CITY.I FINISHED MY STUDY AT SAINT PAUL COLLEGE. I WANT TO CHAT WITH HER IF SHE HAS TIME. MY YAHOO ID ia apple_harty@yahoo.com or she can email me.I'm here in new jersey.i got married july 26,2010. i'm mrs harty smith now. thank you. harty

Thursday, August 04, 2011 11:05:00 AM  
Anonymous harty said...

hi corey,
where in dumaguete does marilyn live? i have many relatives in dgte.Feast in dumaguete is november25.

Thursday, August 04, 2011 11:10:00 AM  
Blogger Corey said...

Hello harty...

My wife graduated from St. Paul's in '89 and she used to live in Daro, but grew up in Bayawan. Thank you for writing!

Saturday, August 06, 2011 12:17:00 PM  

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